Charity Rejoiceth in the Truth

Rejoiceth in the Truth

 

 

 

This is another topic that I focused more on companionship relationships than what would more traditionally be discussed in Sunday School. Still, it's all about Rejoicing in the Truth, in this case rejoicing in Honesty

 

 

Honesty

ASK for what you want and need

This one is something that flummoxes a lot of people, especially women. Sisters, no one can read your mind. You can't keep dropping hints and sighing. You need to be honest with your companion and come right out and say what you need. "Sister X, I would really apprecicate it if you did not sing showtunes while I am praying" or whatever. It is one of the worst stereotypes of women to stomp off in tears because "if you loved me you'd know why I was upset!" Be honest with each other. No mind reading. Ever. Rejoice in the Truth not Rejoice in the Hints

Of course it can't ignore the other aspects of Charity. So before your honest statements, ask yourself

Is it True?

Is it Kind?

Is it Helpful?

It needs to meet all three. It may be true (you have a really weird nose) but it also has to be kind (fail) and helpful (double fail). How about "you drive me crazy!" (true fail--see Elder Bednar) "I would appreciate it if you didn't ..." (true, said kindly, helpful to know)

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How would the Savior communicate with your companion about_______?

Ask the Lord in prayer how He would want you to act. Same three rules apply for Companionship Inventory--follow Preach My Gospel for companionship inventory. It is never a time for a "throw-down" or any unkindness. You are to be focusing on strengths of the companionship and goals for yourself. You don't get to set your companions goals to improve!

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Companionship Inventory

True

Kind

Helpful

 

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Companionship Inventory

Clarify in your mind before asking

 

Body language counts

Respect your companion if she needs process time
It doesn’t matter what the issue is if the way you communicate is destructive or negative.

For those of you who have not memorized Preach My Gospel, here is what it says about Companionship Inventory. Notice that the word 'weaknesses' is no where to be found. (page 150, number 13):

Conduct companionship inventory. At the end of your weekly planning session, share with your companion appropriate goals, and ask for his or her help to accomplish them. Discuss the strength of your relationship with your companion. Discuss any challenges that may be keeping your companionship from working in unity or from being obedient. Resolve conflicts. Share with your companion what you think his or her strengths are. Ask for suggestions on how you can improve. If needed, set goals that will improve your relationship. Conclude with prayer.